Holding space for Death, Rebirth, Grief, Sorrow, Loss, Pain & Rage
There are many types of grief. We grieve for for what we have lost, we can have anticipatory grief about what we are going to loose, we may be currently in the process of loosing someone. But we also grieve loss in other ways. We may be loosing a role that we hold dear or have become used to, in our families or community or work life. We may feel grief for the mass destruction of our natural world, and the loss of human life or safety in the world. Grief can also be carried down from our ancestors.
Grief accompanies loss. In our more stoic cultures, we often don't provide ourselves with an outlet for all the ways grief can manifest.
Anger, despair, shame, guilt, sadness, numbness and relief can be some of the ways grief shows up in our lives. There can be immense shame at experiencing all of those feelings, especially in public. Sadly, often anger is feared and not given enough space to be seen or felt.
For alchemy and healing to come from loss, grief needs to be experienced and given space in solitude and in community.
An intentional way we can come together in community with our multitude of griefs is to create a grief ceremony and witness each other in all the ways grief comes up in us. This can feel edgy, but this type of coming together to heal and to be in gratitude for life, is innate to us as humans and is really only actually a remembering. One that needs to be remembered urgently so to carry and hold us through this great turning we are experiencing on our dear planet currently.
I offer individual, family and community grief ceremonies, which can be tailored to specific circumstances, ex; a person in the community is going through a physical health interruption, or has been given a terminal diagnosis, or a family is going through a separation or has lost a member. Another example is woodland or a body of water is becoming contaminated or has been a site for dis-ease or catastrophe and the community would like to gather to grieve and offer prayers of clearing and healing.
Online grief ceremonies are also potent in connecting people around the world for a unified purpose.
Please contact me if you feel that I can help you create a grief ceremony for you, your family or community.
Please contact me for pricing on a bespoke ceremony.